50 life lessons I have learned in my 40 years on the planet…

Birthday Cake with iPad
My Birthday cake – by Exortique Cakes

 When you turn 40 yrs old it means you have been living on the planet for 14,610 day. In those many days you should have learnt so many things as I truly have. Wisdom truly comes with age but not every one who has advanced in age is truly wise. I found out that there are some life lessons that stand out as I did this exercise. Here is what I did and the results are listed below.  I decided to meditate on my 40 years on earth and to write in one sitting 40 life lessons that I have learnt, the list has grown to 50 and there seems to be more. One neat thing I realized though is that as I read my list over, it felt like I was learning them again. Enjoy and please add to the list or leave a comment.

  1. God is real
  2. You get older whether you like it or not
  3. You have a lot to do with how you live your life
  4. Children teach you so much
  5. It’s a blessing to have a great spouse
  6. Formal education is overrated
  7. One little decision can change your whole life
  8. If you choose to be very authentic you get a lot of freedom
  9. You don’t need a lot of money to enjoy your life
  10. Money is good! You should have a lot of it.
  11. Loving people unconditionally is possible
  12. Being betrayed hurts and it lasts too long in your mind
  13. You can never know the true worth of great parents
  14. Prayer works
  15. If you know what you want, it so much easier to get it
  16. You can automate your income stream
  17. It takes a lot of discipline to learn to save money but it pays
  18. Hard work pays
  19. Self education is underrated
  20. Being busy does not always translate to progress
  21. Don’t let anything steal your joy
  22. Never give up – Just reevaluate
  23. Good ideas are useless without action
  24. Don’t depend on people – They usually fail
  25. Miracles happen if you believe
  26. Life is not fair
  27. If you pursue excellence you get much better
  28. Start Small, Stay Steady, Finish Strong or Big
  29. It’s great to have very good friends
  30. If you become a good friend to others you will have some amazing friends.
  31. No matter how small it is, there are people willing to pay for what you know
  32. Try your best not to live by what people think
  33. Ask lots of questions
  34. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
  35. You can turn every challenge to a blessing
  36. There is always another way of seeing what you are looking at
  37. When you think you are done, try a little more
  38. Try not to say – Let me just sleep a little! You will most likely sleep a lot.
  39. Life is very thin. It can be over very quickly.
  40. Don’t hold too tightly to any material thing!
  41. It doesn’t take very long to be 40 yrs old.
  42. Watch what you think about – Be intentional with your thoughts.
  43. Really – You reap what you sow.
  44. If you are selling anything, just tell as many people as you see about it.
  45. People are not always as smart or foolish as they look.
  46. Try not to give the control of your happiness to anyone.
  47. You will fail other people so learn to forgive others and yourself.
  48. Never stop learning!
  49. Most people are too busy thinking about themselves to notice your pain
  50. God’s love is revealed through Jesus Christ.

Wow, what a long list! Each of them has a little story attached. It may be as simple as I read it in a book and I tried it or as complicated as I went through so much. The good thing is I have learnt these lessons and lots more. These have helped me to form some principles that I live by.


Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it. -Albert Einstein

A teacher writing on a white board


Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it. -Albert Einstein

Wisdom is meant to increase as we grow older but you and  I know that there are some senior citizens whom most will not consider as wise. It is not the grey hair that makes us wise. Rather it is the level of commitment to learning from every situation we find ourselves in.

Schooling does not necessarily increase wisdom, but the one who is schooled has a greater chance of increasing wisdom due to the amount of knowledge accumulated and waiting to be applied (wisdom). This is so because practical wisdom is the adequate application of knowledge.

Wisdom on the other hand can be learned by watching other wise people, taking action and learning from the outcome, reading books and reflecting on whatever is going on around us. I find that I learn a lot just by watching and observing the people and situations around me. You don’t need a school to learn that.

Take Action – Reflect on some of the lessons you have learnt lately. Write down and commit to a plan for implementing what you have just learnt. Continue to learn as you take these steps. Turn every disappointment into a blessing.

Blessed is the one who finds wisdom

wisdom pays


Blessed is the one who finds wisdom,
and the one who gets understanding,
for the gain from her is better than gain from silver
and her profit better than gold.

Is Wisdom really so much better than Money and Possessions?

Wisdom is a very interesting virtue (that is if I can call it a virtue), it begins with knowing that you don’t know a lot and follows by being honest to accept that fact. On this site, my message is that it is better and much more fun to pursue wisdom that to seek to have loads of money! Does that mean that I don’t like money? Or that I think that being full of cool facts like how many cells are in one drop of blood is better than having money to pay for a vacation. No I like to have lots of money because I enjoy seeing the amount of good I can do with money. What this means is that the pursuit of wisdom will give you the money you need in addition to many other goodies that money alone may not be able to buy.

Take Action– Determine to always learn something new about how to achieve your life goals! How to relate better with people, and how to be more at peace and joyful. Wisdom is hard to teach, but it can be learned by being around and watching wise people. It can also be learned by being more attentive to your actions, why you do what you do, the results that you get from your attitudes and actions and the results of  changing these with the aim of achieving your life goals. Wisdom is available all around us if only we take notice of her!



When wisdom enters your heart….


When wisdom enters your heart,
And knowledge is pleasant to your soul,
Discretion will preserve you;
Understanding will keep you,

Proverbs 2:10-11

Wisdom has to do a lot with discretion. Discerning between what is best and what is good, deciding when to act and when to wait. When to speak and when to be silent, what to say and what not to say, how to say what ought to be said. It has a lot to do with when to defend yourself and when to overlook a false statement about you. Scriptures tell us to seek for wisdom like a lost treasure and today we learn that it will give us discretion and understanding which in turn will reserve you and keep you! We all need discretion in our homes and a lot at work. A worker who exhibits discretion is highly valued. Who would not want to keep a worker who makes decision almost as good as his boss? Keep learning, keep reading, keep asking God for wisdom! Keep acting in as much wisdom as you have and it will grow!