When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.

When there is no enemy within

As we remember the sad events of 9/11 2001, it is important to remember these words of wisdom from Winston Churchill. “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you”.

What does he mean by enemies within? It could mean the enemies that we have allowed access into our lives like the terrorists of 9/11. Enemies within could also be our fears and our insecurities that make us vulnerable to the enemies outside.

I have always believed that the best approach to life is to love everyone. Position yourself to desire the best for everyone around you. If you do not allow any poison of hatred, fear, insecurities to enter your heart then all that the enemies outside can do, is help you grow stronger, wiser and more productive. Every time someone tries to hurt me, I learn something about life and about myself that makes me a better man.

The pains of September 11, 20o1 may still linger in the hearts of some, but the real damage is the fear that many have allowed to get into them. Let’s choose not to fear but to love and live our lives to the full. Those who want to do evil will be the ones to live in fear of being caught.

Take Action – As you go around today, look at the people around you and say in your heart – “I love you”. Let the people in your live know that you love them. Forgive those who hurt you and remember that as long as you don’t let the enemy in, the hurt will only turn into strength.

If you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurts, only more love – Mother Teresa

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I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurts, only more love – Mother Teresa

Last week Wednesday (Aug 14) marked 9 years since I got married to my beautiful wife –  the love of my life and my partner in everything – (funny enough I wanted to say my partner in crime.) Some “loverboy” once said, “if loving you is a crime, then I am a convicted criminal”. In this post, I would like to remind you of the place of love in wisdom, in success and in fruitful living. This blog is all about living wisely which translates to making a mark on the world while being joyful and fulfilled.

Thomas Carlyle once said that “a loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge”. I would like to add that a life not centered on loving and being loved will quickly dry up and wither! I will quickly define love as an attitude of heart that desires the best for others without demanding any return from the object of one’s love.

As you seek wisdom, also seek to love genuinely! Do you love the people around you? Here is a list of people that are around us with some suggestions on how you can love them. Take note that the way love is shown varies from person to person. All you need to do is choose to love at all times and to all who are willing to receive it. To love until it hurts is to love without conditions. To love even when it cost you a lot to continue to love. When you love like this, you find that you are ready to give even if all you get back is negative response. At this point you find that yourself always attracting love.

1)Love your family – If you have a spouse, make sure you desire the very best for him or her. Help them to crystalize thier goals and contribute all you can with your goals to theirs. Listen to them and make necessary adjustments to keep the partnership between you stronger.

2) Love your community – It doesn’t matter where you find yourself, the people living around you are there for a reason. Love them. Think of ways of making their lives better. It is as you think about these that ideas of inventions and innovations come to your mind. Decide to be a solution to the problems you see around you ask God to show you ways that you can help. Then do your part and many times you will see that people are willing to pay you to do what you do.

3) Love those who think they are your enemies – These the most difficult people to love. However you must love them because when you choose to love them, you release yourself from being tied down by negative feelings. To love your enemies is to desire that they will stop being so negative, you choose not to repay them in their own coin, you also choose to pray for them to let go of their negative thoughts and attitudes. You may need to remove yourself from these people to protect yourself but still it is important that you choose not to withhold any good from them that you find you are in the position to offer to them. I personally have found that people who tend to attack me or are antagonistic to my ideas help me to get better and attempt to improve.

Let’s hear from you! What are your thoughts about love? I would love to read from you.

Good Friends are priceless

Good friends have always been hard to find, but then people worked hard to find and keep them! I find that today, most of us don’t really care about finding good friends!

You may have 1000 friends on Facebook and non is a real friend! Who is a real friend? Someone who can be honest with you! Who can challenge you sometimes, celebrate you at other times but desires the best for you at all times!

Do you know that many married couples are not friends? Who is your friend? How friendly are you? What have you done lately to build and maintain your friendships?

This is my word of wisdom for today!