I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurts, only more love – Mother Teresa
Last week Wednesday (Aug 14) marked 9 years since I got married to my beautiful wife – the love of my life and my partner in everything – (funny enough I wanted to say my partner in crime.) Some “loverboy” once said, “if loving you is a crime, then I am a convicted criminal”. In this post, I would like to remind you of the place of love in wisdom, in success and in fruitful living. This blog is all about living wisely which translates to making a mark on the world while being joyful and fulfilled.
Thomas Carlyle once said that “a loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge”. I would like to add that a life not centered on loving and being loved will quickly dry up and wither! I will quickly define love as an attitude of heart that desires the best for others without demanding any return from the object of one’s love.
As you seek wisdom, also seek to love genuinely! Do you love the people around you? Here is a list of people that are around us with some suggestions on how you can love them. Take note that the way love is shown varies from person to person. All you need to do is choose to love at all times and to all who are willing to receive it. To love until it hurts is to love without conditions. To love even when it cost you a lot to continue to love. When you love like this, you find that you are ready to give even if all you get back is negative response. At this point you find that yourself always attracting love.
1)Love your family – If you have a spouse, make sure you desire the very best for him or her. Help them to crystalize thier goals and contribute all you can with your goals to theirs. Listen to them and make necessary adjustments to keep the partnership between you stronger.
2) Love your community – It doesn’t matter where you find yourself, the people living around you are there for a reason. Love them. Think of ways of making their lives better. It is as you think about these that ideas of inventions and innovations come to your mind. Decide to be a solution to the problems you see around you ask God to show you ways that you can help. Then do your part and many times you will see that people are willing to pay you to do what you do.
3) Love those who think they are your enemies – These the most difficult people to love. However you must love them because when you choose to love them, you release yourself from being tied down by negative feelings. To love your enemies is to desire that they will stop being so negative, you choose not to repay them in their own coin, you also choose to pray for them to let go of their negative thoughts and attitudes. You may need to remove yourself from these people to protect yourself but still it is important that you choose not to withhold any good from them that you find you are in the position to offer to them. I personally have found that people who tend to attack me or are antagonistic to my ideas help me to get better and attempt to improve.
Let’s hear from you! What are your thoughts about love? I would love to read from you.