Do not reprove a mocker or he will hate you;
reprove a wise person and he will love you. – Prov 9:8 (NET)
I’m amazed at how little tolerance many people have for being corrected today! Not that I go around reproving or correcting people, but I get so many complaints about how unhappy people are for being corrected by parents, managers, supervisors, friends and family! I see people who want to dance only to their own music, people who do not present a teachable spirit! Once in a while I meet others who are so happy to get inputs from others, they are not trying to teach you all the time and they seem to have so much more going for them!
A wise person appreciates being reproved because it make you wiser! You learn what you are doing wrong, you also learn how other people perceive what you are doing! You learn how proud you are if you are offended by a simple reprove or correction. In all you are the better of for a honest reprove!
What about Negative Criticisms?
Although negative criticisms hurt and they are usually aimed at tearing you down, it can help you if you are wise! What people do to us is not what causes the problem, it is how we respond to what they say or do that causes the problem. I have had a few negative criticisms in my life and have some really critical people around me. I have found however that some of these extremely critical people have made me to bring my game to a higher quality! Now you don’t want ultra-critical people around you all the time, but I must say they are a blessing from time to time!
Do you realize that no matter how much you know, there are still so many people who know more than you? There are things you cannot see because they are not within your horizon! The more wisdom you have, the more you realize how little you know. If you are aware of this truth, you desire to learn from every situation. Regardless of how the message is packaged, it is always to your advantage to take the message and discard the packaging!
Check how willing you are to get corrected! Do you have people around you who can reprove you? If you don’t, begin to look for some and give them the permission to reprove you! Make sure though that these are people who love you and have your best interest at heart. People whom you respect and look up to. For example there are many people who have been blogging for so many more year than I have been. I will be happy to have them correct me on some of the things they may see on my site!